True Victim's of Family Courts

Am I a victim of the Family Court System?  NO I AM NOT!!! ... Are you?

It is true that I have been treated like a subclass of the human race, felt the tremendous pain of receiving court appointed time with my child, and grieve the loss of my child every time I have to return him to his mother ... because this is "In the Best Interest of the Child."  They may take all of my material possessions, and they may even take my son altogether; but the Family Court system can not take away the love my children have for me and I for them, they can not take away the desire for my children to know and be with their father, and they can not change who I am as a person and what I believe is right for our children, our parents, and our Nation.  Tomorrow, just as today, I will continue to be the man that I want my son to emulate and my daughters to seek out in a mate.  Tomorrow I will know that my son did not choose his "Visitation" time with his dad, nor did he choose to abandon me ... if the courts were to ever allow for our separation.  And tomorrow I will wake up, thank the lord for blessing me with three beautiful children, whom I so love and adore, and I will continue to live knowing that someday my relationship with my son will be restored to its natural order, and the missing memories of the past will be overwritten by new colorful memories.  So Am I a victim?  Again I must say NO!!!

Who then, is the true victim of the decisions handed down by the Family Court System ... my son, my two daughters, my son's other sister ... these are the true victims because they lack the emotional and psychological ability to comprehend and process decisions handed down by the Family Courts, and in many cases are unaware that these decisions are not made by the missing parent.  The psychological instability of not knowing both halves of oneself has a lifelong impact on a child [see Fatherless Statistics].  All to often, children blame themselves for the separation ... "it must be something I've done to cause him to leave."  Children are separated from their fathers (in ~90% of cases), children are separated from siblings, as in the case of my two daughters, children are separated from their extended family ... so how do they come to know their full self in these situations?  I don't have these answers, nor do I want to attempt to justify decisions that produce these questions.  The truth is, keeping a child from knowing either parent equally is CHILD ABUSE!!!  [with the exception of an abusive parent]  and any parent knowingly keeping a child from the other parent is abusing their child(ren), which is a direct conflict with "The Best Interest of the Child."

The odds are good that my son will be separated from his child or children at some point in his life if families continue to dissolve at the same rate they do today.  The pain and the loss that I have experience is too great for any parent to wish upon their children.  This is why I as a father, and WE as as a Nation, must stop the Abuse and change our laws.